Growing up in a multi-alcoholic family was overwhelming. My father became sober when I was 12, but by the time I was 14 my alcoholic mother drank herself to death. My father is the one who planted the seed for my future when he guided me to Alateen.

Some 25 years later, my life hit a personal bottom and I found my way to Al-Anon Adult Children meetings. I knew I was safe when I came into these rooms, because everyone in the room was like me. I felt unconditional love.

My 23-year-old son is bright, strong, and loving. After having been in Al-Anon Adult Children meetings for several years, I invited him to come to my meeting. I wasn't pushy. He didn't join me.

On a day when my son's life wasn't going so well, I invited him again and he said yes. Members discussed the up-and-down, give-and-take aspects of life. The meeting offered my son just the right message—living "One Day at a Time." He took everything in quietly.

When we left the meeting, I asked my son what he thought. He said, "Mom, that room is filled with a family who loves you unconditionally and people who will always be there for you. It's a safe place."

Tears came to my eyes because I know my group planted a seed for my son. I feel safer for both of us. Thank you, Dad.

By Kaye K., Missouri
The Forum, August 2006

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