I was tense, nervous, and depressed before coming to Al-Anon. I had poor self-esteem. Feeling that no matter what I did, it was never good enough. Despite these feelings, I desperately wanted people to accept me, so I preformed every project with utmost care and effort. I paid excessive attention to details, which served to slow down each project. As a result I rarely accomplished enough to feel good about myself. Because I was a perfectionist, I couldn't accept the compliment of a job well done. I never felt deserving of compliments.

In Al-Anon, I'm learning to accept myself and to give myself credit where credit is due. Now I say, "Thank you," for compliments I receive, whether or not I feel deserving. I'm learning to thrive on progress and worry less about perfection, while still trying to do my best. I'm doing my part and trusting in my Higher Power for the results.

By Kathy W., Missouri
The Forum, June 2006

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